How to Win a Fight
Hey team, here we are for another Wednesday Workshop. I wanted to talk to you a little bit about how to win a fight. I want to talk to you about how to win a fight. Easiest way to win a fight? Some of you are kind of probably wondering. I want to share with you some words of wisdom on the best way to win a fight.
All right, so here we go. Are you guys ready? Best way to win a fight. Okay, get a little closer. All right, listen up. This is pearls of wisdom right here. All right, listen…
Don’t start one.
Yeah, that’s right. Don’t start a fight. You’re saying “But Chad! That doesn’t even make any sense.” No, actually it makes a lot of sense.
There are many times that we get into a fight because of what we say. How we act. How we respond to a comment made to us. Whether it be with a transient, somebody that’s out on the street, a houseless person. Or a customer, or our brother, or if it’s a fellow worker, some guy in a bar. It doesn’t matter. The easiest way not to start a fight is to watch what you say. Don’t start a fight. Don’t raise your voice. You don’t have to dig in to win the fight so much that your temper goes up. I teach this in conflict resolution an awful lot and I talk about it quite a bit. So I want to share this little tidbit of information with you.
When you deal with steel, the process that makes steel really hard is you take and you heat it up and then you cool it down. You heat it up, you cool it down. You heat it up, you cool it down. That constant process of heating it up and cooling it down makes the steel harder and harder and harder and that process is called tempering. Do you know what happens when steel loses its temper?
It becomes brittle and it breaks.
You could go down to a sword shop right now somewhere at the mall and on the wall there’s a sword. It’s right now on sale for $39.99. You might even get a kitchen set of knives with it. On another wall in there there’s a sword and it’s three thousand dollars. The difference between those two swords if they were to get into a sword fight? The one that cost three thousand dollars has a very strong temper and it won’t lose its temper whereas the other one breaks very easily. Just the other day I was cutting some wood with a hatchet and I broke it. I broke it. I literally broke the hatchet. It’s kind of crazy, right? Yeah, I’m that strong.
The same is true with you. If you lose your temper, you’re broken. You’re no good to anybody. You’re going to lose that fight because you lost your temper. Get into an argument with a teenager, into a word struggle. End result? You’re gonna lose that fight because of that battle of words. You’re gonna walk away with a destroyed relationship. Get into a fight with your girlfriend? You’re gonna have to go get a new girlfriend because you’re gonna destroy because you lost your temper.
Don’t lose your temper.
Don’t start the fight, don’t engage in that way. Stay calm. Don’t fight back in that way. That’s the easiest way to not get punched in the face.
All right next Wednesday, we might carry this on a little bit more or talk about something else. I don’t know but remember don’t lose your temper. Don’t become brittle. Don’t break. Be valuable because nothing less will do.
Alright, I’ll see you next Wednesday.